MEN, GET A LIFE...

Updated: Nov 5, 2019


This one might sound obvious to you, but I know for fact that the percentage of men who have no life outside their relationships, their families, is still pretty high.



And it’s so so important, I cannot stress this enough. Sometimes, we can get little lost in our relationships. Not only I have seen it with other couples, but I’ve experienced it myself. I was all about the relationship. I cherished it very much so naturally I was giving it everything. I’ve stopped going climbing, no more “going for one” with friends, no more meetings just catching up, I wasn’t even talking to my relatives that much. Well, looking back at myself, I was bit like a clown really.


Trying to please the one and only at all cost. And for me personally, actually, it had the exact opposite effect.

I got dumped and I remember clearly, that this particular new hobby of mine, pleasing my partner and being there all the time, was one of the reasons. Anyway, let me just briefly give few pointers, reasons, why it is so important to have a life outside. Time apart makes you appreciate the time spent together. It even sounds logical doesn’t it. Then there is this saying, with which I cannot agree more. It goes like that…


“love seeks closeness, but desire needs distance"

I got dumped and I remember clearly, that this particular new hobby of mine, pleasing my partner and being there all the time, was one of the reasons. Anyway, let me just briefly give few pointers, reasons, why it is so important to have a life outside. Time apart makes you appreciate the time spent together. It even sounds logical doesn’t it. Then there is this saying, with which I cannot agree more. It goes like that…

Closeness can certainly result in a higher level of emotional intimacy, but on other hand, it can and it does smother the sexual desire and connection in the long run. Another advantage of being out there, with other people, is that you can actually get ideas and tips how to spice up your own relationship. Either being just doing something new or different now and then or even get some juicy tips from your wing man friends. Not to mention, your hobbies and sports and activities, will make you more well-rounded person and your partner will notice it.


Also, the sense of self, the image of you, which is the image your partner fell in love with, when this get lost completely, or clogged by the sameness and stiffness, or not being developed in any way…well, that’s just a say, it won’t take you very far.

When you have a life, you control your happiness and are more content. Being happy in your own skin builds confidence and an energy that makes you more attractive to people. In general, when you have a life, you’re in a win/win situation: You enjoy your time being with your partner and you enjoy your time on your own.


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